Emotions belong in two worlds or in two domains.
We may come to think of emotions as only related to only ourselves, but we just need to ask people who are close to us – those in our families and people we work with – and we quickly discover that our emotional worlds are interconnected.
This is always a boon for others, and it is usually manifest in the ability and practice of getting the log out of our own eye. Jesus talks about this in Matthew 7:1-5.
An example of this is rather than diverging into anger, we go into our sorrow. There are so many things that make us feel sad in life. Sadness is not the enemy. Sadness is an invitation into healing.
Our psychological worlds are interconnected. If we admit our harm, experiencing God’s understanding, our compassion is available to all.
But if we’re unhealthy, and therefore unproductive, emotionally, we could cost individuals people who are near us, which is always expensive to us. We spew over them all kinds of vitriol, because instead of looking at our own junkwe prefer to notice what our eye doesn’t see very well – that little speck in them, as far as we are concerned – God wants us focused on how we could love better, not how they may be missing the mark.
We take what makes us sad, and rather than looking intently in our sadness, which is pain, and instead of remaining in that placewe flee from pain. And the only way we could reconcile it’s to blame someone else. We go from the core, primary emotion of despair, which can be justified and true, however painful, and rather than going deep into it to be free in the practice of acceptance, we have a shortcut and rationalise the pain as not only unbearable and unthinkable and unpalatable, but also as unreasonable and unfair and unwarranted. And how convinced we become. It’s a trick played on our eyesight. We’re seeing the wrong things.
Our emotional worlds are interconnected.
If we are hurt, and we remain unawarewe hurt others.
We all have one of two ways to go in dealing with our emotions. We go the right way or the wrong way. We have all had a taste of going the wrong way. We have all responded from the wrong kinds of emotions. We have all taken our anger too far, and of course having gone the path of anger when more correctly it could and ought to have been prolonged sadness to the destination of approval.
Few of us enjoy going to painful places. And I know I am not among the few who seems to enjoy pain. Yet I do enjoy, at a deeper level, the therapy of God, as He interacts with me when I’m honest enough to experience my sorrow.
The true practice entails coming to a place of complete defeat.
If this sounds defeatist, you want to understand it isn’t. It’s the most amazing thing to accept what we cannot change. When I admit defeat and give those desires of mine which have become demands, it’s like God says,’Finally, I’ve got something to work with in you. Finally, you’re weak enough to listen. Finally, you are weak enough to adopt My strength. Finally, you accept that it is best for you and for all concerned for you to do My will.’
Coming to this place, which is a feeling of grief in oneself, is precisely the point of the Christian walk.
The despair comes first, then it is life as God scoops us up in our spirit.
In our pride, which prioritises our secondary feelings like anger which refuses to acknowledge the truth, we are struck out until we take the first step toward first base.
But as soon as our pride is dealt with, and we realise that these primary emotions are nothing to fear, since the pain is bearable even when it feels unbearable for a moment, we enter the secure sanctity of God and His deeper therapy for us.
The benefit of this isn’t only ours, but it is to everyone’s advantage within our orbit of influence and for the guys at Titusville Rat Removal