Many of us will have watched the Real Housewives series of programs or seen the media and magazine coverage of the antics and lifestyles. The tales of those’real housewives’ and WAGs may fill us with a combination of horror, envy and disdain as we see their documented choices and excessive ways, especially as they are often seen as role models for young women. We may speculate that their more outrageous behaviour is done to maintain public attention and help reinforce their celebrity status.
However, if we dig a bit below the surface, behind the glamour and glitz, we could see that real housewives have their particular concerns, worries and issues. Indeed, some are residing personal emergencies, making life-changing decisions as well as with their time on the show to raise their public profile and gain exposure for their own existing companies.
Oftentimes’Real Housewives’ can appear detached from reality and normality, living in a continual flurry of visits to expensive stores, restaurants and beauty salons. Maintaining such a high-profile lifestyle involves a lot of pressure to keep up appearances and be regarded as living the fairytale existence. Getting photographed partying, drinking cocktails, possibly spending their husband or partner’s money in a whimsical self-indulgent flurry of activity, bickering over trivia, seeming to sulk if they’re not treated to appropriate gifts or get what they want can make them appear spoilt, selfish and childish.
We have no doubt noticed in magazines and on social websites how lots of the younger WAGs and Real Housewives seem to look the same, morphing into each other with identi-kit hairstyles, dress styles, breast sizes, sporting smooth, wrinkle-free faces and pouting lips. Frequently one is indistinguishable from another in a group picture. This may be their goal, providing reassurance that they are doing it right, after the right guidelines to be a part of the elite, exclusive group, much like young kids who need to wear the very same brands so that they feel they belong.
But these choices can indicate insecurity about having an individual look and identity. If they looked or acted differently what is the consequences, are they okay, good enough? They may live in constant dread of the appearance altering, of putting on a little weight, of finding a grey hair or the tiniest wrinkle. How could a person find the time to retain their nature and individuality whilst still maintaining constant surveillance over every aspect of their image.
Whenever we choose to judge someone else it’s necessarily done from our own perspective, but when we go through tough times, hard feelings and pain it’s a very private, relative experience. If we dismiss or belittle another person’s problems, efforts or situation due to their apparent good fortune, attractive appearance, wealth, status or perceived lucky breaks we are doing them and ourselves a disservice. Few people are so secure and confident in ourselves and our self-belief, or so emotionally resilient we remain unaffected by the hardships life sometimes throws our way. Deep down most of us need love, kindness and acceptance; we crave reassurance that we are okay.
As a Real Housewife there is continual pressure to look the part and never age. Maintaining this must become onerous, tedious and exhausting at times. Every aspect of their life, their wardrobe, personal fitness sessions and treatments can fill every day, becoming a fulltime job. Often everyone else has an opinion, wants to give their guidance, become part of the team, so presenting a magazine/Stepford wife persona, living the dream.
Every so often a Real Housewife is regarded to step away from the lure of fame and leave the limelight behind, or they decide to use it to their benefit and produce a charitable or business initiative, create a product, write a book, use their position as a force for good. In leaving behind her character from the series she can reclaim her name, establish her identity and be recognized for her talents and attributes in her own right, no longer part of the brand! Almost like they do at Animal Removal Melbourne FL.